So at midnight of course they were not, nobody was there so this sister came and what should I say, she took out the catheter, I don’t know but some technique there must be, she pulled it out or something and I felt so painful I can’t tell you, very, very painful and I had to pass water and that water was, you see like you have a wound and you put on it something burning, it was a burning sensation, I couldn’t bear it.

The catheter I didn’t find at all comfortable – I never really got used to it. It didn’t get blocked but I did get a slight bladder infection which made it extremely tender, in fact all the way through there was cream that they would put on the tip of my penis but it didn’t really have much effect. I did find the one irritant, the one so sore that I had to move terribly gingerly because it was extraordinary sore and when I was out of hospital and doing a bit more moving around it was uncomfortable. I think most people would probably find they’ve got through it alright, it was only because I developed a bladder infection that made it smart.

I came home with the catheter that stayed in for – I’m not sure how many weeks it was – it was at least 6 weeks, it could’ve been 2 months.

The catheter is like a balloon, they put that down the penis and they inflate it. The balloon is at the end and they inflate that and that stops the catheter coming out. To take it out they put a syringe down and burst the balloon and then just pull it out; and it’s just an “Ow!”

You have one of a night on a stand and you put the bag on the stand, which is nice when you’re getting older, you don’t have to get up in the night. And then of a daytime, you have one that you strap onto your leg and I used to wear that in the daytime no problems at all. The worst part I had was going to the toilet.

The pain doesn’t come from round the penis but from the bowels. It’s really difficult and I’ve got a very high barrier for pain. I came out and my wife was upset because of it. Gradually it got better and better and they gave me that Lactalose to help, which it did, and then I had the District Nurse coming in every day to change my dressings and she was very nice as well.

How did you find having a catheter in hospital?

No problem at all, absolutely no problem, it was a practical answer to a problem that they had to solve because of the operation and it just worked like a dream, I didn’t find any problem at all. Mine had to stay in longer than other people because mine was a full operation

You had radical prostatectomy.

That’s right.

Is that what they call it?

Yes, I could never remember that full name and I used to call it drastic instead of radical (laughs) but because the urethra had been cut and sewn together then obviously the catheter had to go in until that was all healed. So that stayed in a number of weeks and it just worked and was fine. Of course you have to drink during this time and a lot of people were loath to drink

And you describe what sort of, how having a catheter at home affected your lifestyle?

Not really very, very much because you can get up and about and it’s, the bag is strapped to your shin, your lower leg and you just walk around as normal, it’s hidden beneath the trousers and you just open the drain tube at the moment into the loo whenever it’s nearly full

And what about at night, how did you manage it at night?

At night the bag goes into a frame standing on the floor just outside of the bed and you empty it obviously before you go to bed and next morning it will not be overflowing because it holds a tremendous amount.

That’s good.

I can’t remember how much it holds but it’s a lot.

Did the hospital provide this frame for holding the catheter or did you have to buy that?

No, the hospital provided all the bags that you could want, but we bought the stand.
I had to go back to have the catheter out on 10th October because it was a radical prostatectomy. And that was no problem coming out, I was a bit wary about that, because I didn’t really know much about them, I didn’t want to know about what was inside but they just, it’s a bulb as you obviously know that’s inside the bladder and it’s filled with water and they just release that water so the bulb collapses and then they draw it out it’s no problem at all.

There was a time when I had to go through and do self catheterisation, this is not funny, actually it’s very difficult and very hard.

It was given to me because it was very, very difficult to pass water even then and at that time you needed something to keep you going. And in the end, I had to have a catheter in with a bag on my leg and Ive got this today and I shall have that basically for the rest of my life.

You have the bags which I keep on usually for 1 week, sometimes less. You have to be very careful that they don’t burst. You must, or I wash mine every night completely through, cleanliness has got to be now, there isnt the time when you can come home tired and say I wont bother to wash, youve just go to do it, it doesnt matter how tired you are, or that’s the rules that I make for myself.

Can you explain how you wash it please?

Yes it’s quite simple. Remove the bag which is easy to do and leave the catheter in of course. You empty the wee down the toilet, then Ive got a funnel which I put on the end of the bag, making sure the bottom tap is turned off (laughs) because if you try and fill the bag up with water as Ive done a couple of times then it all goes over the floor. And this is what I do, I wash the bag out, if I have any slightest doubt of the waterproof of the bag then I dump it and put a new one on. There is another thing which you’re going to come across before long and that is when you forget to do up the tap after going out to the toilet at night or you knock it when you’re in bed or it comes undone between the catheter and the bag. When this happens it goes over the mattress, and you wave bye-bye to the mattress because of course no way can you clean it, it just happens and it’s one of those things. Another thing also that can happen is when you’re out and again you forget to do up the tap and you’re walking along and you think my foot’s wet, why?and again you havent done up the bag so you get used to it. You just go to the nearest convenience, you take your shoe and sock off, wash your sock, ring it out and put it back on again.

So how often do you get a new bag?

I usually go 7 days for a bag but as I said if youve got any doubts of the bag then you dump it and put a new one on.

So you can do that yourself?

Oh yes it’s a very simple connection. I find that I strap the bag just below the knee on a long lead or a long tube and this Ive found is the best way of doing it, theres no way out as far I know.

And how often do you have to have a new catheter put in?

You should have a new catheter every 2 to 3 months. I try to get mine to go as long as possible because it’s something that I do not like having done. Youve got, when that catheter, new catheter is being put in youve got 5 minutes of pain but then it’s only 5 minutes and you get used to it, you have to.

I don’t sleep through the night. I usually get up about 3 or 4 times, a good night is getting up twice, that’s a good night. But then again I would worry about going through the night because I think that I’m pretty certain the bag would burst again. You can get bigger bags and some people do this and have them outside the bed, Ive tried it and I couldnt get on with it so I leave it strapped to the leg.

With the catheter you are more than likely to wet the bed so, because the bag has let you down. So therefore my advice is that you get a waterproof sheet to put on the bed, put a blanket on t