And then you came up with this different method, trying this contract thing. So how, who came up with it, did your Mum come across that ‘cos she did research or …?
My Mum came up, came upon it, a similar thing on this American website it was their version of Beat, I can’t remember what it’s called now.
And she thought she’d, she’d discuss it with my psychiatrist and we talked about it and we did try it but it didn’t work at first because even though we were all, though we’d agreed to trust each other, my Mum still had quite a lot of angst over what I’d done in the past so she found it very hard to trust me. And then one evening we had an argument but this time my Dad kind of saw sense with me and realised that I could be trusted. And that, it was after then that it started to change properly.
So it required mutual trust to work? So you talked about the challenges, how did it like work just in practice?
At the end of each week my Mum would go through the week with a piece of paper and we’d put down tallies for the challenges that I’d done,
And I would be honest and tell her what I’d found challenging during that week. And it pretty much, you could tell by the honesty because otherwise I’d get to the next CAMHS session and lose weight as opposed to put on weight. And it did go up and down the weigh, but it was going up and down as opposed to down. So that’s how we dealt with the trust, and my Mum finally agreed that I wasn’t lying to her.
And I think as I did things as a challenge more and more they became less and less of a challenge until they didn’t become a challenge at all. And it’s still going on that contract. But now it’s down to like very, very small things that I find challenging now. And it’s mainly challenges like used to be having certain foods, but now it’s more doing certain things like going out with my friends, and making an effort to go out with friends and stuff.
And what were the first challenges like?
They were hard to do but I always knew that I was getting something out of it, and it was probably going to make me better as well. And it was more an attitude of I’ll give it a shot rather than I can’t, I’m not doing that.
So was it mainly about eating a certain amount or certain types of foods? Was it those sort of challenges?
Yeah it was sort of, types of food where you’ve eaten it, how, who you’ve eaten it with. Cos going out for a meal was a big challenge. Some challenges were worth more like staying the full day at school would have been like 2 points as opposed to 1 point which was half a day. And no points for not going at all.
And yeah it was social things, food things and exercise related things like if I said that I had some weights today but I didn’t do as many as I usually do ‘cos I was actually tired then I’d get a point for being honest that I didn’t do all my weights ‘cos I was tired.