Drugs and Alcohol

Relationships, drugs and alcohol

People we talked to who’d been in a long term relationship, expressed different views about the effect drugs/alcohol had on them and their partners. Using drugs and alcohol when in a relationship often had a negative effect, but several people pointed out there could be other reasons why relationships didn’t work out.
If someone was using drugs regularly while their partner didn’t, relationships could suffer. Looking back, Sam and Charlie could see that when they were high they had not been able to relate to their partners, or pay attention to their feelings.
We talked to several women who described how their first boyfriends had introduced them to drugs and then after they were hooked, had used drugs to control them.
What stops people using drugs when they are in a relationship?
Being in a long-term relationship can prompt people to re-think their lifestyles, especially their drug and drink habits. Several people who were regular users said they would definitely kick the habit if they started a family or got married. Having a partner who was into health and fitness had helped many people give up drugs.  
Deciding to stop taking drugs was much easier if the partner was supportive and encouraging. If you think your partner needs help to sort out their drug or drink habit, see our ‘Resources’ section for links to organisations that can help. See Reasons for stopping or cutting down on drug use and Reasons for cutting down on alcohol.

Last reviewed :July 2018.
Last updated: January 2015.


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