Electroconvulsive Treatment

Childhood mental health

Some of the people we spoke to talked about the importance of their childhoods in relation to their mental well-being later on in life. Although some described their childhood as ‘happy’, others recalled real difficulties with their families, including experiences of emotional and physical abuse. People remembered periods in their childhoods when they felt sad, lonely or ‘out of place’, had low self-esteem or a sense of being a failure. 

A number of people mentioned feeling like they didn’t fit in when they were young (e.g. “they just thought I was a bit weird”), with some saying that they were depressed or anxious, even as a child. Although Enid wasn’t treated for depression until her retirement, she said that she had a period of “quite real depression” as a child when she found it difficult to motivate herself. She felt she “was different from the other people” at her grammar school. She describes herself as feeling isolated and not being given equal recognition when she did well at school. 
Commonly people only realised much later on in life that they had had a problem like depression. 
Difficult family relations and abuse
Some people, who experienced mental illness in their childhood, said their families were a considerable source of support (for more see ‘Family relationships’). However, other people described difficulties in coping with family life during their childhood, for example, after the death of a parent, or following their parents divorcing. 

Quite a few people mentioned particularly difficult relationships with their parents. Yvonne found she took on a lot of the family responsibilities because her mother was an alcoholic. Yvonne said there was a lot of abuse in the relationship, which resulted in her first breakdown. Helen, who suffered from serious post natal depression at 17 (and after the birth of each of her three children) initially blamed herself for her family’s problems: her dad’s suicide, her brother’s brain tumour, and the adoption of her baby. She was only able to come to terms with these issues much later in life through her faith and with the help of talking treatments (for more see ‘Talking treatments’).

Several people talked about severe emotional, physical and sexual abuse that they had experienced in their childhoods that had had an impact on their mental health as an adult. 
Teenage years
The teenage years were described by quite a few people as very challenging times. Back then, people didn’t realise their behaviour was out of the ordinary or didn’t want to share their feelings. Cathy said “being a teenager is a difficult time anyway and your emotions are all over the place,” so it can be difficult to tell if there is “some sort of a problem”. Kathleen had depression and a history of self-harm as a teenager, but didn’t want to share how she felt with anyone. It was only later when she worked as a GP, and was made to see someone about her depression, that she talked about it.
For some people, things did improve later in life. Jane, whose father had depression and mother was very strict and had a breakdown, went from being a “happy go lucky teenager” to “a very serious kind of overly conservative Christian teenager”. Although she didn’t remember being depressed, she had written poems, one describing depression, another called “Shrink Back” describing her inability to have physical contact with people. Now in her late 30s she has re-claimed the “passionate enjoying life person” that she once felt she was. 

For others, it was much later in life that they experienced mental illness, or they had “managed” mental illness but found it more difficult to cope as they got older. David Z said that although he had suffered with mental health issues since his teenage years he “coped quite well” with it until his late 30s when he got progressively worse (for more see ‘First becoming unwell’)

Last reviewed January 2018.

Feedback

Please use the form below to tell us what you think of the site. We’d love to hear about how we’ve helped you, how we could improve or if you have found something that’s broken on the site. We are a small team but will try to reply as quickly as possible.

Please note that we are unable to accept article submissions or offer medical advice. If you are affected by any of the issues covered on this website and need to talk to someone in confidence, please contact The Samaritans or your Doctor.

Make a Donation to healthtalk.org





Find out more about how you can help us.

Send to a friend

Simply fill out this form and we'll send them an email