Bereavement due to suicide

Help from Cruse Bereavement Care

People bereaved by suicide face many problems and may experience feelings such as guilt and anger (see ‘First reactions’ and ‘Changing emotions’), so it is likely that they will need help. Most people find help and support from family and friends. Informal help is provided by various groups and organisations (see ‘Self-help groups, conferences and helplines’).Many also seek support from their GP, and some seek more specialised help from professional counsellors or psychotherapists (see ‘Help and support from professionals’). Others turn to members of the church, or organisations such as Cruse Bereavement Care, for help and support.
Cruse Bereavement Care is the UK’s leading bereavement charity and exists to promote the well-being of bereaved people and to enable anyone bereaved by death to understand their grief and cope with their loss. The organisation provides support and offers information, advice, education and training services.

Cruse Bereavement Support Volunteers, who see bereaved people individually, have undergone a 48 hour training course over a number of weeks, which can include nationally recognised certification. Most of the people who work for Cruse call themselves ‘volunteers’, even if they have worked for Cruse for a long time, though GPs and others often call them ‘counsellors’. (People who have had a different training elsewhere, but who work for Cruse, may call themselves ‘Counsellors’ in their own right, rather than volunteers).
In some areas Cruse run ‘groups’ , such as friendship groups and support groups for people bereaved by suicide. Stephen said that the person he talked to from Cruse was excellent. He said it was good to be able to talk about himself and to know that he was not going mad and that his feelings were perfectly normal. Jacqui also sought help from Cruse.
Some people said that they did not want counselling or said that they did not find it useful. Bob, for example, said that he did not think he would find a male counsellor who had also lost a son to suicide and could help him. Linda was put in touch with someone from Cruse but the person was much older than her and she did not feel comfortable talking to her about what had happened. However, looking back, one man thinks he might have benefited from talking to volunteers earlier than he did.

Last reviewed July 2017.
Last updated January 2015.


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